dinsdag 5 november 2013

Z- inpirations no 5 FRIENDLINESS.


is the word that Dilip Patel giving us this time to think about and make a zia about.

there is a phrase:
frienliness is an hard thing to give away...
it almost every time comes back to you.

and that a realy true thing...
I have told you that my mother is demented and she lives in a home for  dementend elderly.
and people ,in there dementia sometimes get nicer or unkind or sometimes even almost  nasty!

they all have a place to sit  on the diner table and they always sit on the same place because otherwise they get confused.
and at my mothers table there is a lady and sometimes(most of the times) she is quite nasty.
she teases my mother....nasty little things like going to sit on her place immediately after my mother stands up.
and she then dont want to leave.
my mother get upset and sad and that makes my sad also.
 you get out of my story that I do not like that woman very much...and therefore I never am very nice to her....
but I do not like beeing unfriendly and so I thought to myself...lets try it some other way.
I made it an effort to be very nice and friendly to her and smile at her and....
I immediatly get a respond....
she smiled back at me and said:
dear child ...you have dimples in your cheeks if you smile!!
oh please give me one of those???
I always wanted to have them!
and then I realized what a little friendlyness could do.
she was not the nasty witch that I always saw in her but a confused old lady that sometimes not knows what she's doing.

my zia is the sign for friendlyness
and I will dedicate it to al my new zentangle friends!
And I will again take this uppertunitie to tell you about this callenge from Dilip Patel  and his wunderfull site.
please take a look and participate on this callenge .
I gives you the chance to think about a word and what it means in your life
please visite his site:

3 opmerkingen:

  1. Very touching account of your efforts to be friendly with a person who has tormented your mom. Amazing results too! Keep up your efforts, and who knows, she may change her behavior towards your mom one day!

    And a nice zia! Can you explain the symbolism you have depicted? Thanks for your involvement.

    1. the sigh is the chinees sight for friendlyness ( i found it on internet)

  2. Wat mooi Efie, dat Chines (?) teken erin. Ken je de betekenis.
    Je verhaal treft me, zo moeten we het dus doen!